Learn about the value of speaking the language of Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests (OFNR)—and how this help us express ourselves honestly and clearly while listening deeply to others, which can help build connection with our dear ones, even during difficult conversations. 

All emotions indicate that some thing is working, or some thing is missing.  Some need is met or is unmet that leads to a particular feeling in us. The acceptance and awareness of different emotions and feelings will help you understand what you need at any moment, and can then guide you to put your energy towards meeting those needs. 

How to connect to our own as well as the needs of the others and move towards finding a common ground, to hep us build connection. This session will also help you see needs as life energy which if not met for a long time can be challenging for a person. If we are connected to our and other persons needs it can be easier to find strategies to meet the needs. 

How to make requests that are positive worded, specific, doable and also considering needs of others while being open to hearing a "NO" and engaging with it.
Seeing a "NO" as a beginning of a conversation & not the end of it. This session will also focus on seeing request as  a proposal that can lead us into making agreements with our dear ones. 

Moving from Jackals to Giraffe Consciousness
Learn how to shift from our habitual judgmental selves to a more empathetic and conscious beings. We will be using Jackal and Giraffe as a metaphor to show you a pathway to create more compassionate and collaborative relationship with your dear ones. This session will help you connected to your heart, communicate in the language of feelings and needs instead of blame, attack or defense.

Learn to use the listening platter:
Use variety of tools for empathic listening which make others feel heard even during conflict, and helps them open up their heart to you, and make them more willing to listen to you too. This can help build greater connections. We will be sharing simple pathways from mirroring to listening to the deeper meaning behind what people are saying and let them experience that they are seen and heard with these tools for empathic listening. 

Learn how to navigate difficult and triggering moments while staying in touch with your own needs while having a sense of inner peace.  This is not submission, but a way to gather your resources and connection to your own self in ways that helps you stay rooted in your own life energy. This session will give you specific tools for giving empathy to yourself, which is like finding ways to have greater self connection even in difficult times. 

Here all the learnings from the program are integrated by giving you a holistic template that makes you dance from self empathy to empathizing with others and also expressing your own needs and making requests that work for you and your partner in a given situation. We will be using the language of Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests through role plays to give you practice to navigate through your own challenges. 

Learn how to stay grounded in your needs and values, even when they aren't immediately fulfilled, to appreciate them as something that is connected to your own values. This will be a more experiential and meditative session which helps you see the beauty of your own needs and connect to their abundance inside you. This session is inspired by the works of Robert Gonsales. 

Unpacking guilt, understanding where it comes from and the layers behind it to acknowledge the reasons behind our actions and their consequences, both negative and positive.  To understand that any action that we do is in the service of meeting our needs, and some times our actions while meeting some needs also create unmet needs, which creates consequences that are painful. We often get into seeing our choices from the lens of Right and Wrong whereas by looking at the needs met or unmet we can learn to mourn the unmet needs and maybe celebrate the met needs, which may not be easy but its is a pathway that can help us see our guilt from a different lens and even transform it into something which helps us make more conscious choices in such moments in the future. 

Celebrating what moves you in yours' as well as other's actions  and find a way to express it clearly to self and others that moves everyone. Introducing practices and habits that bring in more gratitude in your life by creating rituals around it, and even learn to create gratitude journal, which can make your world more beautiful. 

Learn about attachment styles, how your childhood and past shaped who you are and how you behave. Having this literacy can help you build deep and secure relationship with your partner.

Anger happens not just because of some needs that are not met but because of the story that we tell oursleves in that moment when some trigger happens. Is there a way that we can be aware of what story we are telling. We can move from our desire to change others to focussing on what we need in the moment and bringing that out. Also how can we expess our anger without sounding like blaming to your partner. In this session explore your story about anger and how you uses it and how can you transform it into some thing more meaningful and empowering. 

How Shame stops me from being who i am. It does not let me touch my full potention. How can people learn from their shame and put the attention where they need to instead of getting controlled by it.

Practinng the 'mantra' that encourages you to connect with your own sense of self worth by connecting with self accpetance, deeper belonging to the universe and an robust sense of digntiy that liberates you from the moments of shame and help you get in touch with your true power.

Unravelling the gift of conflict. Learn ways to move from conflict to connection, Listening the deeper meaning of the others, and taking responsibility of you action and creating a safe space where others can be honest and vulnerable about their intentions behind their actions. Setting up a system, learning to have good fights. Help people design their conflict resolution systems. Designing agreements to find a common languare for processing fights.

Learning to identify your deeper purpose and also find the collective purpose of your relationship with your partner in a way that nourishes each one of you. How being togeather is also a way to support each other live our own true callings. We will also share an exercise for you to identify your own purpose by simple steps with our facilitators guidance. 

Learn to celebrate your intimate connection and removing hurdles that stop you from coming close to your partner in a deeper way.
This session also takes you to first build an intimate connection with your self and your body and have a greater sense of awareness of your own needs and then learn a language to express your own needs around intimacy and invite your partner to share their and find ways to integrate them to build a loving and intimate connection with self and your partner. 

Explore how the menstrual cycle affects energy and emotions, and why both women and men need to be aware and sensitive to these shifts for healthier relationships, by understanding the four parts of the monthly cycle and how each one is like a season in nature and needs awareness in engaging with as a woman your self and for the partner to share their care. How doing this can help the relationship foursih and reach its highest potential.

House as a system, Roles and policies, the teal project. How to see running of a house as a system that needs time, energy while organising itself in intentional ways in order to stop the leakages of energy. This brings effective collaboration an co-creation in running our homes, where each one can also be nourished.  
Teal consciousness is a way to live with collaboration and live with the dynamism of life where challenges can lead us to an evolutionary path for the relationship or the family. 

Tension Processing in a Dynamic World: Creating Systems for Effective Self-Management at home. Learn to see gaps or tensions in a neutral ways and find ways to address them with each other in effective ways. The processes here are inspired by Holacracy which has been designed to create effective collaborations in organisations. Shammi has found simple ways to integrate them in our homes. 

Making agreements and policies with consent decision making. Moving slowly by taking one decision at a time by looking at what is Good Enough and Safe Enough in that moment and seeing the family as a dynamic and evolutionary organism. You will also be learning skills for making difficult decisions with consent in ways where each one can have their say and contribute to making the agreements and policies. 

Mediating Family Conflicts: Learn to address disputes among family members—whether between siblings, partners, or parents and children—without taking sides. Avoid unhealthy dynamics and group conflicts by holding an empathic space for all parties. Gain step-by-step tools for effective and comassionate mediation.

Integrating your inner parts when making difficult choices for your own life journey. This session is inspired by Internal Family System. 

Reflecting togeather on the stories that you carry about money and maybe some of them needs some healing. How to create life affirming relationship with money for self and finding a language to talk about money in your relationships with openness and transparency in our intimate relationships and families. 

If you have been brought up to experience your self worth only when you give, even at the cost of your own self care, the chances are high that either your will be burnt out or be resentful in your giving at some point.  Especially for women in patriarchal cultures its the women who have been christened as 'givers' for which the can pay a big cost. However, if you learn to give while nurturing yourself the quality of your giving also changes. In this session learn to know your limits, have self care and enjoy saying 'No' with care and compassion. 

Review of the program and receive guidance to move forward. Make action plans for the future based on the learnings from this course using the 'tree of life' process.